I had to sit with this one for a bit. Confidence. Letting go of confidence is such a hard sell for me because I had to build up self-confidence intentionally.
I feel like the connection between confidence and trust is also so tight. I trust myself about myself - not about others. I don't know what's right for others. I know what's right for me. I trust that. I'm pretty confident in that.
What do you think about trusting yourself vs being confident?
Wow, thanks so much for writing this! I appreciate your journey of building confidence in yourself and not being willing to let go of that for one second!
Maybe trust of self is more process based, connecting in to our deepest wisdom one step at a time. In the case I'm writing about, I was too confident in my specific abilities to hold his feelings no matter what. That meant I didn't realize I needed to be prepared for difficult feelings that would come up. So it backfired.
Maybe there's a word that's more precise than confidence for this. What do you think?
Yeah, I think in your post it's about the tipping point of confidence into self-assuredness which ends up in over-extended. I'm seeing a graphic emerge of this. I'll post it and tag you
I love your playful, musical way of broaching the topic. I was nodding and chuckling as I listened. Also, you have a beautiful voice! Yes, humility is a healthy and needed counterpart to confidence!
I love the playful, creative way in which you're illustrating such an important, but heavy message about the way in which we can easily spiritually bypass our own emotions, to the detriment of ourselves and our relationships. And in a culture that centers confidence over vulnerability, we're especially susceptible to this sort of self-gaslighting. Thank you for sharing the wisdom of your experience *and* your beautiful singing voice!
Thanks for your beautiful share and your BEAUTIFUL voice!!! Wow I have chills! <3 Looking forward to reading your voice and listening to your words.
Thanks so much Laure! That's really touching. And I see what you did there : )
I had to sit with this one for a bit. Confidence. Letting go of confidence is such a hard sell for me because I had to build up self-confidence intentionally.
I feel like the connection between confidence and trust is also so tight. I trust myself about myself - not about others. I don't know what's right for others. I know what's right for me. I trust that. I'm pretty confident in that.
What do you think about trusting yourself vs being confident?
Wow, thanks so much for writing this! I appreciate your journey of building confidence in yourself and not being willing to let go of that for one second!
Maybe trust of self is more process based, connecting in to our deepest wisdom one step at a time. In the case I'm writing about, I was too confident in my specific abilities to hold his feelings no matter what. That meant I didn't realize I needed to be prepared for difficult feelings that would come up. So it backfired.
Maybe there's a word that's more precise than confidence for this. What do you think?
Yeah, I think in your post it's about the tipping point of confidence into self-assuredness which ends up in over-extended. I'm seeing a graphic emerge of this. I'll post it and tag you
Great! I think we deeply agree but - words.
I love your playful, musical way of broaching the topic. I was nodding and chuckling as I listened. Also, you have a beautiful voice! Yes, humility is a healthy and needed counterpart to confidence!
I love the image of you nodding and chuckling 😄 Thanks for your thoughts and your warmth.
I love the playful, creative way in which you're illustrating such an important, but heavy message about the way in which we can easily spiritually bypass our own emotions, to the detriment of ourselves and our relationships. And in a culture that centers confidence over vulnerability, we're especially susceptible to this sort of self-gaslighting. Thank you for sharing the wisdom of your experience *and* your beautiful singing voice!
There's so much wisdom in what you write here Keith. And thank you for your encouragement!
Thanks so much ❤️ 🙏🏼 I see what you did there :)